Those female dating disorder modern
Long Story Short
The leaves are changing and winter is coming. That means for many, it's time to lock down a temporary boyfriend that they'll end up ditching when the spring hits.
Do you get cold sweats thinking about Thanksgiving or Christmas dinner without a partner to show off? Is thinking about a summer festival season without random hookups something that makes your stomach turn? Then you might suffer from seasonal dating disorder (SDD), a ridiculous dating behavior openly followed by some.
SDD, similar in nature to seasonal standards disorder (SSD), is usually kicked off right around now during cuffing season, those intense months before Thanksgiving when people seem primed to lock down a Netflix buddy for winter. SDD pokes up its fickle head again as soon as the snow melts, approximately around the time of Coachella.
Self-proclaimed sufferer of SDD, Samantha Moore, 24, told The Sun that she finds a mate every winter around this time.
"In hotter weather, I go out drinking with work colleagues until 4 a.m. most Friday nights but as soon as autumn starts, no one does that. Everyone goes straight home after work. It’s really boring," she said. "It’s starting to get cold now so my non-single friends are staying in with their partners more. It’s nice to have someone who is up for cozy nights in together."
By the time summer hits, Moore gives this excuse to break up with her winter cuff every year: "I’m really sorry, I’m just too busy. I don’t have time to prioritize a boyfriend."
Sian Ryan, 25, another SDD sufferer, said having a partner during the summer is a waste of time.
"I don’t mind spending all day in bed together in the winter but during the summer, I’d be annoyed. It would be time wasted."
At 29, Laura Ecclestone told The Sun she's getting tired of her bi-annual SDD and hopes her current boyfriend sticks.
"I’m hoping this relationship could actually last past the winter – I’m 30 next year and would like to settle down," she said. "If it happens, great, if we break up next spring, then there is nothing new there. But I’m getting to the age where I need to grow up a bit. Going out every weekend in summer is a bit silly, really, but we’ll see."
So is SDD just something that happens to people in their twenties that they can simply get over when they want something more serious? Is SDD even a real thing? I asked Eve Peters, founder and CEO of a new dating app called Tonight:
"Of course seasonal dating disorder is not really a disorder at all; it's just people who are currently interested in short-term dating: something more substantial than a fling, but less committal than a long-term relationship," she said. "And wanting to 'buddy up' in the cold and lonely winter makes perfect sense. That said, most people who aren't settling into serious relationships in their twenties start to crave and seek out something more permanent in their twenties."
Even though cuffing season is coming to an exhausting conclusion, there are absolutely people out there who want to hookup and find an ideal date during the winter. Why should you settle for someone you don't really like, ever, let alone just for Netflix and chilling when it's cold?
Yeesh, this whole labeling everything as a new dating behavior or dating disorder is getting wayy out of hand.
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