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What the article really is, like most things written by or about millennials, is an overwrought exploration of millennial delusions and lack of self-awareness.
If you don’t want to read 2,000 words about young people being awful (though who wouldn’t?), I’ll summarize the article thusly: Gone are the days of yore when a man would call a woman on the telephone to ask her to accompany him somewhere nice on a certain date at a specific time. Instead, the reality of modern dating is noncommittal text messages, group dates and “hanging out.” It’s mostly “blah, blah, blah, guys suck” with some pseudo-intellectual analysis peppered in to keep up appearances.
Our dating customs are and have always been about proving two things: intention and suitability. When a man calls to invite a woman to a show or a fancy restaurant, he’s demonstrating that he not only thinks she’s special enough to warrant the occasion, but that he has the resources necessary for such an outing.
If a woman has a lot of men lining up to take her on dates, she must be pretty desirable. But with online dating and social networking, things are different. Sending an email or text message doesn’t require the same gumption and spectacle of a phone call or in-person invitation. On the flip side, that same technology puts us in contact with more people than ever.
Now anyone can enjoy the perception of desirability, thanks to online-dating sites that convey your intentions and put you within arm's reach of thousands of people. If you’re a girl on an online dating site looking for attention, of course you’re going to get lots of messages. If they’re noncommittal and less than impressive, that shouldn’t be a surprise either. When you cast a wide net, you’re bound to come up with a lot of crap. If no one’s asking for your phone number and inviting you to art galleries and fine restaurants, maybe it’s not the fault of others. Maybe you just aren’t that interesting.
It’s really what I’m sure will be known as the classic millennial folly — thinking that someone else (or at least someone in general) must be to blame. “I’m smart and attractive and cultured, so something must be wrong with men if they aren’t willing to put effort into dating me.” No, it’s not a problem with men in general; it's just the men you’re talking to. I promise you, most men are willing to go the extra mile when it comes to impressing the object of their desire. It’s just that as we come into contact with more and more people via technology, we learn that most people simply aren’t the right fit for us. For any one person, only so many people are going to spark real romantic interest.
When a man texts a woman to go on a crappy date, it’s not a sign that civilization is crumbling or that love is dead; it’s just a sign that he wasn’t all that into her to begin with. If he were, he’d have tried harder. Against all odds (love that song), people continue to get married every day. I guarantee that none of those relationships started with a text message saying, “Hey, want to meet up later?”