All you need to do is pause for a moment and pay close attention to your thoughts and how you are feeling. That's right. You project onto the world what you see inside, and you fail to project into the world what you fail to see inside. Be Cocky And Funny. But at 44, I started to realize that if I want a companion before Social Security kicks in, I have to leave the couch. This is break time. Enjoy the joy and feel like you have "become" a big smile.
Develop an attitude of gratitude — Every morning and evening find three things to be grateful for and say thank you in your mind and feel the gratitude in your heart.
Or another way of saying that is 'your energy is divided'. Such as Romance.